Tamil Wedding: All About the Traditions

Event Fashion: People often say that South Indian weddings just be unique and different from North Indian ones. Tamil Nadu is an integral part of South India, which follows the culture and traditions strictly. Most traditional Tamil wedding follows closely-knit activities that followed in age-old cultures. Here, we take a look at some traditions that execute Tamil weddings which are commonly knowns as spiritual weddings in India.

Traditional Tamil wedding usually happens during the day time. As per the Tamil calendar, weddings don’t fall in the months of Chithirai and Thai. Read on to know more about Tamil wedding rituals followed traditionally.

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Bride and Groom in Traditional Tamil Wedding attire

Traditional Tamil Pre-wedding Rituals

Jathaga Porutham – Horoscope Matching

Nakshatram / jathaga porutham as it is called in Tamil and additionally acknowledged as the rasi porutham is practiced to find the adaptability of the bride and groom. A Tamil wedding cannot get a place without the matching of the horoscopes! While families are scoping out proposed grooms, this is one of the first places they start. Traditionally families get in touch with a committed astrologer since laymen don’t know how to find a marriage date from Kundli. As this pre-wedding ritual is often non-negotiable in many families, astrologers begin by equaling the Nakshatra. Hence, after their horoscopes are matched astrologers approach families with pictures of proposed grooms and brides!

The next move involves writing of the marriage agreement. After that, people from both families gather in the groom’s house where on this day priests from both families exchange marriage agreement. The agreement is traditionally put on a plate with bananas, coconuts, betel leaves, saree for the bride and jewel or vesti for the groom. After this ritual, the bride, and the groom wear new clothes and exchange rings.

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Panda Kaal  Muhurtham

The main custom performed at the Tamil wedding is Panda Kaal Muhurtham. This tradition is usually conducted before the single-digit odd number days before the wedding. Where, both the bride and groom families pray to the Almighty and ensure a hassle-free wedding event.


Mehendi, contrarily known as henna, its a paste linked with positive spirits and good luck. Traditionally, the Mehendi ceremony will be held before the night of the wedding day. Hence, it’s a form of wishing the bride good health and prosperity as she begins her journey on to the wedding.

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Wedding Day Rituals

Birde and Groom Tamil wedding

The wedding ceremony begins in the morning. Sumangalis from both bride and groom sides make a paste of turmeric, kumkum, and sandalwood. Finally, oil is applied to the bride/groom’s hair and apply the (aforementioned) paste on their face, hands, and feet.

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Receiving garlands from the temple

The bride’s family accepts the propitious garlands. Family members bring the propitious garlands from the temple bought by both families and return them over to the bride’s family. Hence, these garlands are used in the wedding ceremony.

Welcoming the groom

 “The bride’s family greets the groom”

 The bride’s family members bring gifts, propitious items and a ring placed on a huge plate for the bridegroom. The ceremony is followed by the playing of the ‘nadaswaram’. The bridegroom is then accompanied to a temple for a prayer before continuing to the wedding venue. The bridegroom’s mother also carries gifts for the bride, along with the propitious ‘thali’.

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The groom’s parents drape the bride with a nine-yard silk saree. Then the groom applies vermillion to her hair. The bride changes into this saree and comes back with a grass ring on her head, and a reed grass belt across her waist. The groom then ties the Thaali around the bride’s neck, and the groom’s sister tightens the knot.

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Groom on top of father’s shoulder

Saptapadi – Seven Steps

“Seven steps around the holy fire”
The new married couple walks around the holy fire seven times while the ‘priest’ says mantras and marriage rites.

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Traditional Tamil Wedding Post-wedding Rituals


It is a modern addition to the post-wedding ceremony. Groom’s family hosts a reception function and invites friends including other relations to bless the newly wedded couple. Finally, a feast is arranged for all the guests.

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Three days later, the newly wedded couple hits the bride’s parental home and treated with a sumptuous feast. The bride’s parents give jewels to the newly wedded couple as a parting gift. And with this, all ceremonies come to an end.

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How traditional Tamil wedding is different from others?

As the world recognizes, traditional weddings are filled with energetic and full of traditions. This is all about the Traditional Tamil wedding ceremony as these are filled with dazzling colors and are seldom held over more than one day. The Traditional Tamil wedding ceremony doesn’t fail to carry the Tamil traditions within itself. The wedding custom is ridiculous and feels like a festival. Hence, Tamil peoples hold their own customs and rituals of indicating the completion of a marriage. Where Tamil wedding makes the wedding difference while compared similarly to other weddings.

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