Assamese wedding: Everything you need to know
Have you ever attended any Assamese wedding? If not, you might just be missing out on something beautiful. India has an extremely diverse culture, making it one of the most colourful countries in the world. Every occasion and festival, is, therefore, celebrated gracefully and joyously. Weddings are no different, with each State having a customary way to conduct and hoist their marriage ceremonies. While different areas have different customs, rituals and food items, they are all equally beautiful. Assamese weddings are no exception, being a sober celebration exuding grace and subtlety. Here’s a look at everything you need to know about Assamese weddings.
The wedding ceremony goes by the name Biya in traditional Assamese, and the key fashion elements are the saree and mekhla chadar. Like with most Hindu wedding, Assamese wedding too has pre and post-wedding ceremonies. While the rituals come off as humble and rooted, they celebrate the simplicity of the Assamese culture.
Assamese Pre-Wedding Rituals
This serves as the bridal shower in Assamese weddings as the bride receives love, warmth and gifts from friends and relatives. Typically occurring a couple of weeks before the wedding bash, Juroon sets the tone for the event. The groom’s mother also attends the party, along with the bride’s female relatives. All the participants sing wedding songs or biya naam at this event. The bride’s mother welcomes her counterpart using a bell metal utensil or xorai. It is in this ceremony that the groom’s mother presents the bride with her wedding attire and jewellery.
Also read: Traditional Gujarati Wedding
Tel Diya is the part of the Juroon wherein, the mother-in-law pours oil over a betel nut and ring placed on the bride’s head. Following this, she applies vermillion on her head, and gifts her coconuts, sweets and two earthen pots. The bride then seeks blessings from the groom’s elder relatives. A unique tradition of Assamese weddings is the groom’s mother gifting the bride’s mother something special for bringing up someone so beautiful.
This serves as the inverse of the Juroon. The ceremony occurs at the groom’s place, with his in-laws attending the ceremony. The bride’s family brings with them all the gifts the bride received on her Juroon, except clothes and jewellery. The bride and groom then equally divide all the sweets, gifts, food items and other utensils received. This ceremony establishes a strong bond between both the families.
This ceremony occurs separately in both the groom’s and bride’s houses. The families visit sacred ponds and collect enough water for the couple’s ceremonial bath. Both the groom’s mother and the bride hold a lamp over some rice, a coin, betel nuts and a knife while travelling to the pond. The pair receive the coin before the bath begins. Furthermore, the knife is tied to a scarf and the bride and groom take care of this scarf till the end of the wedding. The ceremonial bath goes by the name Nuoni. The bride and groom sit on a seat made using banana leaves, while family members apply oil, curd and a lentil paste on their head. Following this, sacred water is poured over the couple, marking their cleansing.
On the wedding day, in the early morning, the groom’s family sends the bride some curd. The bride eats half of it and sends the remaining back, which the groom then feeds on. This ceremony brings with it good luck, as this is the last meal both people eat as singles.
Assamese Wedding Rituals
This occurs right before the wedding function. The bride dresses up and sits on an ornamental metal plate with saunf in her hands to welcome people to the wedding. She then greets all the guests who have come for the wedding to show her respect for them. As the groom approaches, she leaves the dais and goes in to change into her wedding attire.
Much like a Baraat, this occurs at the groom’s place. Initially, his mother playfully tries to stop him as he begins to leave. He then peeps through the door and the cloth his mother is using to stop him, thrice before he leaves. The groom then takes his mother’s blessings and leaves with his friends and relatives. Once he reaches the venue, he is showered with rice grains in a ceremony called Dora aaha. During this ceremony, the groom’s best man tries his best to protect him from the rice using an umbrella. The bride’s mother then welcomes him with kisses on his cheeks. The bride’s younger sister washes his feet in a ceremony called Bhori Dhuwa. Doing so, also culminates in her receiving a hefty sum from the groom. She then allows the groom to enter the wedding alter, and the bride’s brother carries him inside.
Before entering the hall, the bride has some Panchamrit, which is a combination of ghee, curd, sugar, milk and honey. The bride’s uncle carries her on his shoulders to the venue, and the ceremony occurs before a holy fire. The couple garland each other as the priests chant holy mantras over the fire. As relatives blow conch shells, the groom applies sindoor on the bride’s parting, symbolising her conversion into a married woman. The couple then go around the fire seven times during the Saptapadi. Following this, the bride steps on seven betel leaves using her right foot.
Assamese Post-Wedding Rituals
After the garland exchange, both the bride and groom take part in post-wedding games called khel dhemali. The pair’s friends and the family hide a ring within a bowl of rice and the couple must look for and find this ring. Whoever finds the ring will have an upper hand in the marriage, as per custom.
Right before the bidaai, the groom seeks for his relative’s final blessings by touching the feet of every elder in the bride’s family. He thanks all of them for their presence by gifting them clothes. In return, the elders shower him with their blessings and gifts.
After the bidaai, the bride’s in-laws warmly welcome her into her new home. She washes her feet, and then goes on to break an earthen lamp, called saaki, before entering her new home. As soon as she enters, she heads to the prayer room and has some curd.
The day after the wedding, the groom goes to the bride’s house, and a priest comes to narrate the story of Khuba and Khubani. When the story ends, both the bride and groom seek blessings from the Gods and then get ready for the reception in the evening.
The wedding festivities end on the eighth day, when the newlywed visit the bride’s paternal home. All her relatives gather to welcome the couple and serve them an elaborate lunch.
Assamese Wedding dress
Rock your wedding with the traditional Assamese wedding dress. The groom usually wears a traditional Dhoti, Kurta and Assamese shawl called Cheleng. The bride’s family gift the groom all three of these prior to the wedding. The groom’s main accessory is a garland of flowers and Indian Basil, which he places around his neck. An Assamese bride wears a traditional dress called Mekhla. Mekhla is a lot like a sari with the difference being, that while the sari is a single piece of cloth, Mekhla comprises of two or three different pieces of clothing. One part forms a skirt, while the other forms the anchal. The cloth is heavily ornamented and embroidered to add finesse and class to the attire. The common colors preferred are green, yellow, red, and blue.
Assamese wedding songs
All you need to know about trending the Assamese wedding song to be played at your wedding. To know more about the Assamese wedding song and tradition follow Event Fashion.
- Biya Naam (THE WEDDING SONG) sung by GITANJALII DAS from the movie named Raja Returns.
- Jora Nam from the album Marriage Songs of Assam Bantam sung by Mr. Lokeshwaran Deka.
- Ram Ram Pani from the album Marriage Songs of Assam Bantam sung by Lokeswar Deka.
FOLK SONG (BIYA NAAM) by Hurricane Girls one of the trending wedding songs in 2020. It is sculpted by the skills of Music Director Poran Borkatoky (Jojo).
Hai Hai E Bole an exclusive wedding song sung by Mr. Lokeswar Deka in the album Assamese Bihu Songs.
Kanya Bidai Na wedding song that makes everyone to dance in the wedding which sang by Mr. Lokeswar Deka in the album Assamese Bihu Songs.