Traditional Punjabi Wedding rituals
Event Fashion: Traditional Punjabi weddings are expressive, with numerous colours on display and a warm and welcoming environment. There never occurs a dull moment during these events as everyone; even the elders take part in all the weddings enthusiastically. They offer a glimpse of traditional values and practices, coupled with fun games and activities. A conventional Hindu Traditional Punjabi wedding composes of various wedding rituals. Hence, here is an overview of traditional Punjabi wedding rituals
Pre Punjabi Wedding Rituals
Roka and Thaka
Roka or Rokna is the first ritual of the Traditional Punjabi wedding. The family of the bride visits the groom’s family with gifts. This visit is reciprocated by the groom’s family as well called as Thaka. These two ceremonies are low-key. Traditionally, the families used to decide the wedding dates on these days.
The ceremony begins with a puja called Ardaas and the couple seek God’s blessings. The couple is considered to be officially engaged and are then showered with gifts. The gifts, called Shagun or Sagan, comprise of sweets, savouries, dry fruits, clothes, jewellery etc.
In this ceremony, the family of the groom visits the bride’s family. They gift her a headscarf called Chunni and a red coloured saree or lehenga. They also bring bangles and traditional sweets. A headscarf covers the bride’s face and head. This ceremony is called Chunni Chadhana. Bride’s hands are dyed with Mehendi, and she wears the bangles gifted to her.
Sagaai takes place on the same day as the Chunni Ceremony. The couple exchanges rings in the presence of family and close friends. Some families exchange Rings at the end of the marriage.
Mehendi or Henna Ceremony
This ceremony is probably the favourite among Indian women- married or unmarried. Mehendi artists visit the bride’s home before the wedding. They create intricate Mehendi patterns and designs on the bride’s hands and legs first, and then on the hands of other women. The designs on the bride’s hands are more ornate than those on other women’s hands. This ceremony also takes place in the groom’s family in the presence of family and close friends.
This ceremony is often regarded as the musical extravaganza. Ladies sing, dance and enjoy. They play instruments like Dhol. Women also tease the bride and tell her funny stories. Fun and togetherness fills this evening and ends with refreshments.
On the wedding morning, a Hindu Priest ties a sacred thread called Mouli in the hands of the bride and groom separately. It is a good luck charm and is supposed to remain tied until it falls off.
The Bride’s maternal uncle or Mama and his wife gift a set of 21 bangles in red, maroon and white hues to the bride. The bangles are purified in a mixture of milk and rose and blessed by the elderly. The Mama puts the bangles on the bride’s wrists in the presence of a sacred fire called Havan. He and his wife also gift the bride a saree or lehenga-choli. The bride has to wear this attire at the time of the wedding. The bride is supposed to wear the Chooda, or the bangles for 40-45 days after the wedding.
The sisters and friends of the bride tie Kalide to the Chooda of the bride. These are umbrella-shaped figures usually red in colour to symbolise fertility, prosperity and happy married life. The bride shakes the Kalide tied to her arms over unmarried girls. The girl on who a part of the Kalida falls is believed to be the one to get married next.
On the wedding morning, the bride sits down facing four lamps called Diyas. The female members of the family apply a paste made of turmeric, sandalwood, rosewater and mustard oil on visible body parts of the bride. It acts as a cleansing and beautifying agent. The ceremony also takes place at the groom’s house.
The Haldi is scrubber off from the bride’s body, and she visits a nearby temple with her siblings and close friends. They pour a pitcher full of water on her. She then enters the sanctum of the temple for the deity’s blessings, comes back home and gets ready for the evening events. The same process takes place at the groom’s house as well. But it is his sister-in-law who pours the water pitcher over his head. He also seeks the deity’s blessings and dresses up for the evening.
A Priest conducts a small Puja with a pink coloured turban called Sehra. The groom’s father or a senior male member wraps it around the groom’s head. It has strings hanging down which cover the groom’s face partly.
Ghodi Sajana and Ghodi Chadna
In this ceremony, the groom a mare or Ghodi is beautifully decorated and fed by the groom’s sisters and cousins. This process is known as Ghodi Sajana.
The groom’s sister-in-law puts Surma in his eyes to protect him from the evil presence. He then gets on the back of the Ghodi to the bride’s house or the wedding venue. This process is called Ghodi Chadna. Below – Traditional Punjabi wedding rituals
Main Wedding Rituals
Agwaani and Milni
In Traditional Punjabi wedding, the groom arrives on his horse along with his side of the guests. The bride’s family welcomes them at the house or venue entrance. Both the families exchange love and warmth by hugging and shaking hands, known as Agwaani.
The bride’s mother especially welcomes the groom and worship him with a lighted Diya. This process is known as Aarti, and the guests are led inside. Each member of the groom’s family meets the corresponding relative from the bride’s family. This meeting is called the Milni.
Varmala or Jaimala
The groom then stands on a raised platform. At the sacred Mahurat, the bride walks in and stands beside him. They exchange garlands, and the ceremony is full of fun and laughter.
Madhuperk or Madhuperka
After the Varmala, the couple sits around a sacred fire. The bride gives the groom a small bowl of water using which he cleans his feet, body and drinks the rest.
He is then given a sherbet called Madhuperk to drink. It comprises of ghee, curd, honey and some essence.
In this touching ceremony, the bride’s father hands over his daughter to the groom. He tells his son-in-law to take good care of her and asks his daughter to accept her new family with love and warmth.
The Priest lights the Havan fire. There are fourteen parallel lines of flour made on the floor which symbolises 14 vows that the groom has to fulfil throughout his life. The priest chants holy mantras and recites the vows to the groom one by one. The groom takes the vows and erases one line at a time using a flower.
The bride is considered as the embodiment of Goddess Laxmi. She brings prosperity to the life of the groom and his family. The scarf worn by the groom and the lehenga or saree worn by the bride is tied together. The couple circles the sacred fire four-time- thrice led by the bride, and one by the groom. The Fire God or Agni is said to solemnize the wedding after witnessing this act.
This sacrificial ceremony takes place thee times. The younger brother of the bride puts rice into the bride’s cupped hands. The groom’s cupped hands beneath cover them. They offer the rice to the Fire God to seek his blessings.
After Lajahom, the groom fills the hair parting of the bride with vermilion. This ceremony signifies the end of the ceremony and the beginning of a new relationship.
Joota Chupai is a fun tradition in Hindu weddings. The groom and the bride remove their shoes or sandals before sitting for the ceremony. The sisters and cousins of the bride hide the groom’s shoes. In return for the shoes, the groom has to offer gold Kelacharis to the bride’s sisters, and silver Kelacharis to her cousins. The guests then feast the lavish dinner.
Post – Punjabi Wedding Rituals
In this beautiful tradition, the bride bids farewell to her family members. She takes puffed rice or Phulian in her hands and throws them over her head without looking back. Furthermore, this process signifies that she thanks her family for taking good care of her, and she hopes that everlasting prosperity prevails at home. Her brother and male cousins lead her to the car to send her to the groom’s abode. Doli is the name of this return procession. The female members of the groom’s family reach before the couple for further preparations.
The groom’s mother applied mustard oil on both sides of the entrance door. Once the doli arrives, she does an Aarti of the bride using a pitcher of water. After every round, the mother-in-law tries to drink the water, but the bride has to stop her and allow her to drink only at the 7th round.
The bride then overturns a container filled with rice using her feet. She dips her feet into lac and leaves their impression on a white cloth. She is welcomed and led into the mini temple of the house where the couple seeks god’s blessings.
The bride reveals her face to the relatives and neighbors of the groom’s family by lifting the veil. The mother-in-law bestows her daughter-in-law with gifts and blesses her.
The groom’s family throws a grand reception party for the guests. Everyone sings, dances and has fun. Nevertheless, the bride returns to her home for a day. Her husband accompanies her, and they spend the night there. But, they return back the following morning, or after a few days.
Punjabi wedding song
All you need to know about the best Punjabi wedding songs to be played at your wedding. To know more about Punjabi wedding traditions follow Event fashion.
Queen: London Thumakda
London Thumakda wedding Song remains a beautiful song from the movie named Johnny. The Song does sing by famous Kangana Ranaut.
Wakhra Swag wedding Song directed by Robby Singh. Music Composed by Navv Inder.
Pyaar Tenu Karda Gabru
Check out the beautiful wedding song from the movie named Shubh Mangal Zyada Saavdhan. The song is composed by famous music director Yo Yo Honey Singh.
Balle Balle- Bride and Prejudice
Balle Balle wedding Song from Bride and Prejudice Movie, Starring Venkatesh, Aarthi Agarwal. Music composed by Koti.
Gur Nalo Ishq Mitha
Gur Nalo Ishq Mitha remains a beautiful song featuring “ Malkit Singh -The Golden Star. The Song is sung by famous singer Bhushan Kumar.
This is how a typical Traditional Punjabi wedding ritual takes place. In addition, read about traditional weddings from other parts of the country here.
Punjabi wedding games to be played at your wedding
Stick game is played among the bride and her husband, brother, and cousin-brother.
In this game, the groom should remove the bracelets tied around the bride’s wrists with seven knots. The game continues as the same for the groom where bride should remove the bracelets from the groom’s hand
A large bucket that was filled with water, and grass Kept on the floor between the couple. The game is about the bride and grooms should put their hand in the bucket, and find the dropped coin from it. Hence, who finds the coin first wins the game.